Updated: Feb 9, 2019
Cuffing season is the time of year that most men and women choose a primary mate to be casually exclusive (yes I said that) during the coldest months of the year. The lack of outdoor activities men and women will partake in, is mostly due to frigid temperatures that force them to stay indoors during the winter. The cuffing season typically begins in October and runs throughout the winter months; the beauty is most couples may not expect anything serious initially and if their arraignment doesn't last beyond the season, both parties usually make an amicable decision to split. There is still a fine line that crosses over from a cuffing relationship into a full-blown relationship and below are some of the signals to let you know.
Started with a Follow now You're Here
The cuffing preseason is the time to scout the potential bae you'll shack-up with over the cold winter. The cuffing preseason is the possible origin story of the "how I met your mother" for most millennials. Before the social media platforms that provide you with easy access to your hashtag Woman-Crush-Wednesday, men could only try and shoot to women offline and in person. Now, social media gives us so much access and even a blueprint or playbook into what our woman crush likes and dislikes. All it takes is a simple message written by your thumbs and who knows, maybe if the stars are aligned your shot just might hit.
Mi Casa Su Casa and Midweek Sleepovers
Although the underline to cuffing season is a casual relationship, there is still room for it to grow into a potential serious long term relationship. Sleepovers are common during cuffing season and especially after a hot session the night before. But, the moment either of you leaves any of your possessions at one of the other's residence, then the whole game changes. Remember how cold J. Cole (pun intended) sounded when he said, "Takin' off her skirt, let her wear my shirt before she leaves, I'ma need my shirt back." Nah, she means a little more to you when she "borrows" your hoodie or even sweat pants. Also, if the sleepovers become more frequent and move beyond the weekends, well then she's that much closer to becoming your "LADY", lady.
Social Media Pictures Worth a Thousand Words
While you might not officially change your relationship status, other unofficial queues say you're off the market. The moment she tags you in any pics on her social media, it's almost a wrap. You may even begin to be more conscious and think twice about pictures you double-tap to like or comment on out of respect for your new potential bae.
The Valentine's Day Test
Valentine's Day is really the start of the cuffing season playoffs and it's either win or go home. V-Day, pretty much a fake made up Hallmark holiday, but still has value nonetheless. V-Day is also a measuring stick for new and potential relationships especially given that February is four months into cuffing season. If you find yourself intentionally putting thought and effort into Valentine's Day, then congratulations, you're in a new relationship.
If Valentine's Day represents the cuffing season playoffs, then the first sign of warm weather is the Super Bowl of new relationships. The warm weather is one of the first ultimate tests of cuffing season. The fair weather allows you to go out and see more people and perhaps allow you to realize if you were truly feeling each other and have the compatibility for a relationship, or just simply keeping each other company. As cuffing season is coming to an end, only time will tell if you're truly the blues in her left thigh, trying to become the funk in her right. Is that alright?