Started From a Tweet, Now We’re Here
On December 5, 2015 Ayesha Curry, wife of current NBA Champion and MVP Stephen Curry, tweeted a random thought regarding her distaste for the latest trends in women’s fashion. Curry stated, “Just looking at the latest fashion trends. I’ll take the classy over trendy any day of the week. Everyone’s into barely wearing clothes these days huh? Not my style. I like to keep the good stuff covered up for the one who matters.” Although her tweet wasn’t aimed at anyone directly that we know of, for the most part she generalized her statement but the social media universe…LIT HER UP! Women came out the woodwork to lend their opinions against Ayesha’s post. A meme went viral depicting a side-by-side picture of a stylish yet classy Ayesha Curry and semi-nude Amber Rose. It stated that we need more Ayesha Currys and fewer Amber Roses. As we all know Amber Rose burst onto the scene oozing with sex appeal when she dated rapper Kanye West back in 2008. Rose has since made a name for herself through her sex appeal on and off the TV screen. Like Curry, Rose is also a mother. She has a son from rapper Wiz Khalifa, but motherhood has not seemed to tone down Rose’s bold sexuality.
The Fellas Perspective
Women have the right to be sexy, indeed. But what is sexy? Well it depends, just like beauty is in the eye of the beholder, same thing goes for sexy. There are some guys that can see beyond the physical. It was the rapper Nas who was the first to admit, “a fat a$$ would catch my attention but would never make me faithful. A pretty face got me to commit but never made me change. It was that funny girl with the beautiful personality with the million-dollar smile and a heart of gold that left me in tears begging for a second chance, I never viewed women the same after her. She left my heart convinced that love was more about chemistry than biology.” An unofficial proverb that says, you dress for the job you want, not the job you have. That may work unless you want to be a Victoria Secret model in lingerie and angel wings, in that case you may want to wait for the weekend, or until you’re in your bedroom.
We men certainly don’t have a problem looking or sometimes staring at overly sexualized women thirst trapping us on IG or even in public, they are a pleasure to look at. But as far as for my girl, my woman, my wife who is committed to me… she better keep that sh*t under wraps. When Drake said, “that women don’t do it for the men, men never notice.” He was speaking in terms of the acute details and measures women take to personalize their style. Like the on-fleek eyebrows, invisible parts, contoured make-up and other similar things we men don’t think twice about when we encounter the opposite sex. But trust, we notice when women flaunt their assets (pun intended) for public display.
Listen, men eventually want to settle down with a woman that can be a role model to our daughters and that our mothers would approve. But we still need Amber Rose. Trust me, the lady in the street and the freak in the sheets is much more than a cliché, but it is a fact of life. We need Ayesha out in public to conduct herself in that classy and respectful manner. We need the woman that is still beautiful, sexy, and classy even when dressed conservatively from head to toe. But privately, we need Amber Rose. Oh yes, we need Amber Rose in the bedroom behind closed doors to do all those things Yeezy taught her at the end of Blame Game (Click here to listen). We want to see backflips as if we’re at Cirque Du Soleil that re-upholstered action. We want to see those Jimmy Choo’s she wears with nothing else that she bought for the bedroom only and for MY EYES ONLY! This is why Ayesha Curry and Amber Rose are both equally important, although they’re both as different as night and day. The context between the two is public and private.
Bonus Thought: The Dave Chappelle Logic
The great comedian Dave Chappelle once did a bit about women that dress provocatively. He goes on to say he saw a woman out in the club that looked good…and not that classical way, but in the, “half her a$$ is showing and her breast were all mashed together and poking out kind of way good.” The first logical way to respond to her was, DAMNNN… Disgusted the woman says, No! Just because I’m dressed this way does not make me a whore. Chappelle goes on to agree this is true and warns the fellas that just because a woman dresses a certain way doesn’t mean that they “are” a certain way. But he concludes by stating, “all right fine. I agree, you are not a whore, but you’re certainly wearing a whore’s uniform.”