We all have buttons we hope that no one ever pushes. You know that one sensitive subject that has the ability to make you either thirty-eight hot (I know that’s not that hot, but it’s a cliche) or even straight black-out from anger. While we all individually have deeply rooted issues or subjects, we’ve put together a list of subjects that the brothers are most sensitive about. So tread lightly the next time, you casually or intentionally bring up any of the following sedative subjects for black men that could cause tension.
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Our Sports Team
Men are straight fanatics about their sports teams. Whether their team is good or bad, there is an unquestionable loyalty that comes with supporting their team. From a very young age, you ask any boy, but specifically a black boy what he wants to be when he grows up, and he’ll team you some degree of a professional sports player. Then, we adopt our favorite teams either by the city you were born and raised in, family birthright meaning your whole family were dolphin fans so you became one, or at a young age you started as a bandwagon fan and never wavered...no matter what, there is a lot of time and emotions invested into cheering for your favorite sports teams, so you dare not disrespect a man’s team.
Hey momma, I wanna scream so loud for you…and I’m so proud of you (Kanye West). No matter how good or how bad a man’s relationship is with his momma, she is still his momma and he will always love her. From conception, we are one with our momma, living, eating, and breathing off of her. The one woman who loved us before ever knowing what we looked like or even acted like for over nine months. Speaking to the overall black majority, in correlation to asking the young black boy what he’d like to be when he grows up, buying his momma a house will be one of the top things he’d want to do when he grows up. If a black man is lucky enough to make it into adulthood, he may owe much of the credit to his momma, because she loved him through everything; the good, the bad, and the ugly. Even though when it comes joking and cracking on your fellas, be sure never to take it too far with the "Yo Momma" jokes because things could go from bad to worst when that man has a soft spot for his momma. Dear Momma, there's no way I could pay you back, but the plan is to show you that I understand, you are appreciated.
Our Sex Life
Fellas, whether we'd like to admit it or not, whether the gentleman or the player we are all artists and we're sensitive about our ish. Allow me to break it down; man shalt not lie on his "member". Now, I for the age old question, does size really matter? I'm not here to answer that, but what I can say is that none of us wants to come up on the short end. Here is a rhetorical question for the fellas, on a scale of 1 - 10 how do you rate yourself in bed? Bet everyone would say 10! Yeah, fellas, I'm sure we're all knocking it out of the park. That is until that one scorned woman brings you down to reality and boy women know those buttons to press especially with the words. Part II to this subject is your girlfriend's... past! Look it's 2017, and not saying women thou aren't loosed, we all have a past, negro even you have one. It's sensitive when she does that thing you like but then you get possessive like, who else knows about this!? Just block it out your mind and be blessed, knowing that you're getting it like you're getting it.
Man, our hairline is like our Achilles heel, It's both a minor and major detail pertaining to our grooming. I can't explain how a fresh cut makes you feel like your barber just wiped all of your sins away along with your new growth. A fresh cut can make you feel like you can do all things through Christ which strengthens you. There is power in a razor sharp line-up, power to make you walk into any room and approach the most attractive female there. Power to give you the needed confidence for any job interview, you name it. So when we notice that our edge that once made perfect 90-degree angle is now starting to make an oddly-shaped capital M, is the day that we realize we're to the point of no return. You can jokingly tell your homie his line-up is off and watch him get all self-conscious about, staring in every mirror or even vying to wear a hat.
A black man and his feelings are so underrated, so much so that we don't even talk about it. I know why it's rare for a black man to open up about his feelings, but I don't know why it still has to be this way. Almost from birth and into our first baby steps when we fall down we are greeted with, "you better not cry!". Man, you have to be tough coming where we're from or we'd get taken advantaged of or eaten alive by our very same environment. It's known that most men view expressing our feelings as a sign of weakness, but in reality, it's a sign of strength if you really think about it. If you can share and express your true feelings and be vulnerable to someone, more specifically your lady, it shows you trust them and there is the form strength.